6 posts tagged “sex tips”

So we’ve given tips to girls and tips to men but how about we focus on both. Its mid way through the year a long time since new year resolutions. Mid way through the year how are they holding up? Are you still not smoking? Exercising at least once a week? Or, avoiding excessive amounts of chocolate? Never mind resolutions get broken but as its July why not make some new ones focused on your sex life.

Focus on what you like in bed
Think about what really turns you on and tell each other

Stay Sensual
Buy new lingerie or something sexy to improve the mood

Touch Daily
Hug and touch just to stay in touch emotionally so sex doesn’t seem out of the blue

During Sex, think about sex
You will be turned off if you write a to list for the next day’s tasks during sex

Get yourself some grown up toys
Keep sex exciting by adding sex toys to the bedroom, maybe a bullet vibrator to begin with or something that stimulates both of you like the we-vibe.

Let your partner know if something feels wrong
Rather than a direct criticism, try to suggest things you would like instead of what you don’t.

Keep Kids at bay
Make a no kids in the bed rule and stick to it unless they are sick and let them watch their dvd to keep them busy while you connect as a couple.

Do it when you don’t want to
Have sex when you are not in the mood you may find if your partners in the mood it will increase your arousal.

So with a few mid year resolutions you could be adding some spice back in to your sex life.

In recent months, I feel we have focused far too much on Sex Tips for Girls so let’s take a look on what men can do to improve relations in the bedroom.
There are plenty of steps men can take to improve their sex lives.
Here’s just a few of them:

1. Try a new position – experimenting can lead to discovering new thrills so try something new.

2. Designate a sex day and spend the day entertaining each other

3. Plan what you are going to do later, if now is not possible tell her what you are going to do to her.

4. Take a break, if sex is getting boring, take a break with no contact to build up the anticipation

5. Sneak in a quickie – quickies can reinvigorate relationships so take her by the hand and surprise her

6. Compete with her –playing games outside the bedroom can build up sexual tension

7. Take a trip down memory lane- remind her of some memorable events in your relationship to recreate the moment and build new memories.

8. Cuddle and massage her after sex that releases oxytocin that can make her addicted to you.

9. Let her take control – sometimes girls want to be in control

10. Introduce her to some of your friends she hasn’t met and she may see you in a new light

11. Learn something new- possibly unrelated to sex and the excitement fires up the dopamine

12. Reclaim your virginity – have a sex break then slowly build up relations over a few days till you can’t keep your hands of each other

So why not try some of these sex tips and if they don’t work why not get some sex toys from Turn Me on

So this month we’ve been scouring the globe for sex tips and it seems the people over at Cosmopolitan have been doing the same. So lets take a look and see if there are any international tips we are missing.

1. Foreplay should be long lasting – this tip is from Korea and states you should arouse each other before you even get to the bedroom. Using blindfolds and silk scarves you can get aroused by the thought of the act. Also when you move onto actual stroking and caressing there is no harm in orgasasm before intercourse infact it can make intercourse even more intense as you already feel sensitive to every touch.

2. Aussie girls along with girls from Israel and South Africa are not afraid of initiating sex. This forward approach works well and guys love not being the ones pestering for sex. Girls like the control too, so why not take your guy surprise and initiate something this weekend.

3. Let him know what you want, both French and Hungarian women speak their mind in the bedroom and Hungarian women know what they are talking about they have sex 152 times a year more often than women in other countries.

4. You don’t know what will turn you on till you try it, thats the greek philosophy, who are willing to try anal sex and bringing sex toys into the bedroom. Italians like to try new places as living at home till the age of 30 means you need imagination for your sexual encounters.

5. Think about sex more often, Spanish and Latin American girls have sex parties to discuss techniques and the latest vibrator, why not follow suit. 60% also confess that the star of their fantasies is their current partner, so take your mind back to some good times and introduce yourself to a vibrator.

So thanks to Cosmopolitan international for these globally inspired sex tips, we will add them to the list to try.

1. Don’t be too self conscious, if you need to have the light off and worry about the shape of your bum you are being too self conscious and this can make you timid in the bedroom. He’ll love you as you are so put these worries to the back of your mind and get on with it.

2. Get in the mood, massage is not just for girls give your guy a massage to get him in the mood

3. Foreplay, most men prefer blow jobs to sex so work on your technique, tease him by kissing him everywhere then head for the main course.

4. Talk dirty, its your way of letting him know exactly what you want, if you can’t face saying it how about a naughty text.

5. Don’t forget to kiss, there are hundreds of nerve endings in your lips, use them.

6. Strip, show off your body, feel good about yourself and show him how you want to be touched

7. Take it out of the bedroom, maybe in the car or at a friends party take yourselves out of your comfort zone and it’ll increase the excitement.

8. Try sex toys, try some bondage lock him up with handcuffs and blindfold him and tease him the lack of sight will increase his sensation of touch so touch everywhere but give nothing way. Why not try some sex toys in your relationship start small with a vibrating egg and work your way up.

9. Use your hands and give him a hand job to take you back to your first experiences, use plenty of lube and it will compare to other sexual experiences.

10. Have something your amazing at, whether its oral or on top, so you can ask do you want me to do my thing and leave him begging for more

What to avoid

1. Don’t get giggly around things penis related, get to know his parts and what he likes.

2. Don’t expect him to read your mind, if you want something ask for it.

3. Don’t let your interest fade, sex can become monotonous so spice things up by adding something new rather than not doing it.

4. Leaving it all to him, you take charge, be spontaneous and he’ll appreciate it

5. Complaining about your body, he sees curves and you should do people with a more positive body image have more orgasms

In contrast to sex tips part one these sex tips come from Sex Lives of Wives by Holly Hollenbeck. Her book written in 2008 provides a more up to date look at how to improve your sex life.
The previous book encourages husband avoidance and arguments to avoid sex whereas Holly suggests initiating sex and been generally enthusiastic about your sex life. Saying no is discouraged and talking of chores is a no no.

Try role play using sound effects and alternating between fast and slow and romantic lovemaking. You should make sure you appreciate male genitals, touch it stroke it and play with it. Compliment your man’s technique and let him know what you like.

According to Holly it is important to tune into each others needs like lubricant. For example you could try sex toys. This could involve telling each other dirty stories and fantasies and then trying to act on fantasies like bondage. You could try some different forms of role play or try unusual locations. Or even recreate old times like your first time or go on a second honeymoon.

To be honest I’m not sure either of the books have it completely right, the first book is about keeping the woman happy and the second book about keeping the man happy. A successful relationship should be about keeping both partners happy involving give and take and compromise and of course using sex toys for couples from Turn Me On.

In 1894 vicar’s wife Ruth Smythers wrote a book Sex Tips for Husbands and Wives. Over a 100 years later are these tips still relevant? The motto of give it little, give it seldom and above all, give it grudgingly is in stark contrast to 1960’s free love and the sex lives enjoyed by today’s sexually liberated embracing their sex lives and using sex toys
The tips of this wife basically reflect her motto; a new bride should limit sexual encounters to twice a week and reduce this where possible using feigned illness, sleepiness and headaches.
Men should be discouraged from trying abnormal positions and generally kept under control otherwise marriage can descend into an orgy of lust.

A main portion of the tips are focused on husband avoidance. Keeping lights off, keeping sound to a minimum and avoiding the exposure of too much flesh, in fact not allowing her husband to see her fully naked at all.

Kisses on the lips should also be avoided and if he attempts to kiss anywhere else, the toilet should be used as an excuse. The wife should never show her pleasure in moans and groans and nag the husband after sex about tomorrow’s tasks. In fact nagging and bickering in late evening are useful to avoid sexual contact.

The ultimate goal of the 1890’s woman is to have finished child bearing duties by the 10th anniversary and cease sexual contact, relying on children and social pressures to keep the marriage together.

All in all this advice sounds more like entrapment and and 1890’s husband would have probably needed sex toys to feed his libido. I’m pretty sure the wives didn’t all agree with this advice as in 1883 the vibrator had been created to cure hysteria and you can imagine they probably needed the vibrator to relieve sexual tension.