4 posts tagged “bondage”

In contrast to sex tips part one these sex tips come from Sex Lives of Wives by Holly Hollenbeck. Her book written in 2008 provides a more up to date look at how to improve your sex life.
The previous book encourages husband avoidance and arguments to avoid sex whereas Holly suggests initiating sex and been generally enthusiastic about your sex life. Saying no is discouraged and talking of chores is a no no.

Try role play using sound effects and alternating between fast and slow and romantic lovemaking. You should make sure you appreciate male genitals, touch it stroke it and play with it. Compliment your man’s technique and let him know what you like.

According to Holly it is important to tune into each others needs like lubricant. For example you could try sex toys. This could involve telling each other dirty stories and fantasies and then trying to act on fantasies like bondage. You could try some different forms of role play or try unusual locations. Or even recreate old times like your first time or go on a second honeymoon.

To be honest I’m not sure either of the books have it completely right, the first book is about keeping the woman happy and the second book about keeping the man happy. A successful relationship should be about keeping both partners happy involving give and take and compromise and of course using sex toys for couples from Turn Me On.

Ever wanted to try a little bondage but worried about the expense or not sure where to start. The Fetish Fantasy bedroom bondage kit has everything you need to be adventurous

Many people have some form of sexual fantasy, some like to dress up, others like to dominate, some like to be dominated. When you dress up there are lots of options available to really get into role-play, you could dress up as naughty schoolgirl and a strict teacher. Threesomes are an obvious sexual fantasy for most men but the ménage à trois is also popular with ladies although they do prefer their man to look but not touch when there is an another lady involved. Another fantasy is watching other couples in the act and many also like the idea of being watched, or caught, so fantasize about sex in public places.

Most of these fantasies are just that, a fantasy, unlikely ever to be made reality but that doesn’t have to be the case. The Fetish Fantasy Kit allows you to fulfil your fantasies by giving you the equipment to see if bondage really is for you.

This bedroom bondage comes complete with wrist cuffs, ankle cuffs, a collar, and leash and blindfold mask as well as a spanking paddle with which you can torment your partner while she craves more. The cuffs come in a combination of shiny black PVC and purple cheetah pattern velvet. This means it looks hot but it is still soft on her skin.

So if you are looking to fulfil your bondage fantasies or even some of the others I have mentioned, why not check out www.turnmeon.co.uk for a wide range of sex toys and bondage equipment.

A basic summary would be that bondage involves people being tied up or otherwise restrained for pleasure. Most people consider it a more extreme sexual practice, and not the kind of thing ‘normal’ people would do.

However…

The fact that mainstream ‘high street’ adult shops stock varying degrees of bondage equipment suggests that many ‘normal’ couples incorporate elements of bondage into their sex lives at some point in their relationships.

The use of bondage within couples tends to be very different from and separate from that normally associated with BDSM. Couples’ private bondage games largely take place behind closed doors, and constitute foreplay, usually as a prelude to the couple having sex. This is usually known as ‘bedroom bondage’.

There may or may not be some elements of dominance and submission involved as part of role play, but sadism and/or masochism rarely play any part unless the couple already have such leanings. This shows how bedroom bondage contrasts with activity in the BDSM subculture, where the emphasis is often more on bondage for its own sake.
Bedroom bondage usually involves one partner being voluntarily tied-up or put into restraints (such as handcuffs or bondage ropes) by the other, who then either sexually pleasures the tied partner (using manual masturbation, oral sex, vibrating sex toys etc.) or has sex with them while they are restrained, or of course both. Typical sex toys used include dildos, vibrators butt plugs and others. Leather and PVC lingerie and clothing is often used in conjunction with bedroom bondage, as are bondage whips and spanking paddles, though these are normally to enhance the feeling of trust as opposed to being used to inflict actual pain.

The tied partner may derive pleasure from being in a largely ‘helpless’ predicament in the hands of a trusted partner, and the other may enjoy the mild domination involved in having their partner in that predicament. Masks and blindfolds often add to this sensation greatly, meaning the ‘helpless’ partner cannot see what is going on around them. Either way, many established couples find playing bondage games relationship-affirming, as they both require and imply a level of trust between the partners that is not normally found within more casual relationships, as well as being a shared ‘private’ facet of their sex life that most couples prefer to keep just between the two of them.